Being in an intimate relationship requires a balance between the needs of the individual and the needs of the couple. Finding that balance is one of our goals. Couples often seek therapy when there is some type of impasse. Communication has broken down, there is frequent conflict that remains unresolved, and often there is distance that is difficult to breach.

I work with couples in a way that is related and active. I watch and listen for problematic dynamics, destructive patterns, and problems in communication. I am open and direct about what I observe. I listen to each partner, offer feedback, and attempt to assist in finding better ways of relating. I offer tools whenever possible to help you work more effectively with conflict and incompatibilities.

Our goals in working together are to heal wounds, enhance affection, address emotional reactivity, conflict resolution. We will take up the project of establishing a balance between the need for security and the need for mystery and adventure in the interest of the search for passion. Each partner must recognize their contribution to the problem and be accountable. The healing requires taking up the challenge of relationship as an opportunity for personal growth.
I have many years of experience working with couples of all orientations, same-sex couples as well as with diversity of culture.